Heads Up: Logical mind is not
entertained. Emotional minds are most welcome
Lately, I have been seeing Facebook
posts and WhatsApp messages of my friends getting their marriage fixed. And
also notifications for various government posts with only persons born above
1991 being eligible. I don’t know what to think other than the fact that I am
getting aged. Having said that, marriage is the next thing coming to mind. What
about that? Love marriage seems out of option. So, this option less question
leads to another question. What about the Arranged marriage?
Explain arranged marriage with it's types (2 marks)
Explain arranged marriage with it's types (2 marks)
No
concrete ideas. But, got a little idea on how these will happen thanks to my
friends. So, started thinking on how a Dream Arranged marriage would be. One
which gets fixed now and get married after a year. Or one that gets fixed now and getting married within 3-4 months. Hmm..how about within a month? I know it’s fast and
there are only disadvantages in that. No time to plan. No time to get along
with the girl and many no’s like that. But, there lies a silver lining in that.
Let’s come back to that later.
Disadvantages of prolonged Arranged marriage (at least 7 points)
Firstly, if you get married after 1 year of getting fixed, you have the following disadvantages
Disadvantages of prolonged Arranged marriage (at least 7 points)
Firstly, if you get married after 1 year of getting fixed, you have the following disadvantages
1)
Over/excess/unlimited/non-stop talking to him/her which further
have the disadvantage of getting the marriage cancelled (as a single guy/girl,
we never want that to happen)
2)
Secondly, you will lose the feel of arranged
marriage because gradually it will become an arranged cum Love marriage
3)
Your friends will have the embarrassment/irritation of seeing you blush. Yeah, exactly. That same 'enna venumnaalum pannu..aanaa thayavu senju vekkam mattum padaatha' moment (I think this applies only for Boys)
4)
1 year means obvious fights. So, obviously you
too have to hear love failure songs like a real lover (then it’s a “kadasila
ennayum Love failure songs kekka vechutaanglee Sivaji” moment)
5)
And most importantly, one year of Bachelor life
wasted, which means you can’t post single or love failure (one sided) statuses or
memes in FB
6) In the long run, you tend to forget that you are engaged and going to get married similar to how I forgot the last point due to prolonged thinking
7) ????
The Hare and the Tortoise (it's not always about winning)
Having said that, what is the silver lining in that fast paced marriage? It sounds like an adventure. It’s like a roller coaster. Like the first day in school or college. You don’t know what’s there for you. That excitement. That nervousness. That non-stop heart beats. If you have spoken everything during in that 1 year I wonder what they will be speaking after their marriage. And it’s more like Love marriage again. Before marriage, everything would be optimistic and mostly virtual and hence everything goes cool. But, after marriage comes the gap and the fights when you are facing the real scenario when your mind says ‘Ego Matters.
THE Adventure
I am not saying that fast pace will work out and the other one won’t. I just think that fast paced might get entertaining. Hmm..for example, let’s take first night. You may have thought to speak about many things. About his/her family and their characters. How the border in her sari looked so nice? What chocolate she likes? How that light streak of Santhanam in his forehead was cute? Why his/her friends were giggling on the reception stage? Did he/she understand a single word of what the Iyer said during the marriage Pooja? Where to go for honeymoon? But words won’t come out. It would get many days to get settled. Every situation becomes a lesson. You get to know her/his likes or dislikes gradually with many ‘I thought so’ moments and cute little smiles Compare this with the virtual scenario of knowing these same things by talking in phone and the worst part – WhatsApp message
The Best Parts
You will be cautious with your every move thinking on what he/she might think. Tasting her first cooking without knowing how it would be. Going out with him in bike nervous about the speed bumps. That innocent touch when both try to take out popcorn from the same cup during the first movie which leads the sweet and endless ‘you take..no no you take..no you take first’ moments. And then continuing that just to touch him/her. And the best part, the first blushing from him/her. That will be a killer one for sure. It’s an indescribable experience. (Blushing over phone and the eyes-closed-blushing-smiley in WhatsApp is no match to this when compared). Those initial days are the ones which you might cherish forever.
The Hare and the Tortoise - Again (now also it's not about winning or at least participating. It's about the dreams the Hare had while it was asleep)
And after reading all this, some might think ‘This guy got married fast paced and so he is saying like that’. It’s not about getting a girl or a boy and it’s not what I experienced. It’s just a collective of imaginative thoughts of how a fast pace marriage might feel. Those thoughts sounded like an adventure. A real adventure, not a virtual one. So, I am sharing it here. Who doesn’t like to experience an adventure? Or at least dream about it?
6) In the long run, you tend to forget that you are engaged and going to get married similar to how I forgot the last point due to prolonged thinking
7) ????
The Hare and the Tortoise (it's not always about winning)
Having said that, what is the silver lining in that fast paced marriage? It sounds like an adventure. It’s like a roller coaster. Like the first day in school or college. You don’t know what’s there for you. That excitement. That nervousness. That non-stop heart beats. If you have spoken everything during in that 1 year I wonder what they will be speaking after their marriage. And it’s more like Love marriage again. Before marriage, everything would be optimistic and mostly virtual and hence everything goes cool. But, after marriage comes the gap and the fights when you are facing the real scenario when your mind says ‘Ego Matters.
THE Adventure
I am not saying that fast pace will work out and the other one won’t. I just think that fast paced might get entertaining. Hmm..for example, let’s take first night. You may have thought to speak about many things. About his/her family and their characters. How the border in her sari looked so nice? What chocolate she likes? How that light streak of Santhanam in his forehead was cute? Why his/her friends were giggling on the reception stage? Did he/she understand a single word of what the Iyer said during the marriage Pooja? Where to go for honeymoon? But words won’t come out. It would get many days to get settled. Every situation becomes a lesson. You get to know her/his likes or dislikes gradually with many ‘I thought so’ moments and cute little smiles Compare this with the virtual scenario of knowing these same things by talking in phone and the worst part – WhatsApp message
The Best Parts
You will be cautious with your every move thinking on what he/she might think. Tasting her first cooking without knowing how it would be. Going out with him in bike nervous about the speed bumps. That innocent touch when both try to take out popcorn from the same cup during the first movie which leads the sweet and endless ‘you take..no no you take..no you take first’ moments. And then continuing that just to touch him/her. And the best part, the first blushing from him/her. That will be a killer one for sure. It’s an indescribable experience. (Blushing over phone and the eyes-closed-blushing-smiley in WhatsApp is no match to this when compared). Those initial days are the ones which you might cherish forever.
The Hare and the Tortoise - Again (now also it's not about winning or at least participating. It's about the dreams the Hare had while it was asleep)
And after reading all this, some might think ‘This guy got married fast paced and so he is saying like that’. It’s not about getting a girl or a boy and it’s not what I experienced. It’s just a collective of imaginative thoughts of how a fast pace marriage might feel. Those thoughts sounded like an adventure. A real adventure, not a virtual one. So, I am sharing it here. Who doesn’t like to experience an adventure? Or at least dream about it?
