Why One Loves – Free Writing

Love. Why one ever needs Love?

To ‘live’ as some say. Maybe

To Love back. Maybe

To find that mystic magic? Maybe

I would say Love is just being selfish. Yeah SELFISH. And this selfish is not in a wrong way

It’s on a gaining basis

I show my Love to you to get it back from you

Yeah. I can hear what you are saying? Love doesn’t expect. It just needs to be shown

Haha

Maybe your way of approach to Love

But I just want you to do an act for me. Just start loving a girl/boy – not just for my sake. Maybe the girl/boy you are in love with (given you are in Love already) or else be patient and find that girl/boy you are looking for

Then, start Loving her/him unconditionally.

And beware don’t ever tell it to her/him. It’s because when you tell it and if he/she accepts it, then selfish comes in place. It’s because proposal of Love is itself an act of getting pleasure. That thought of ‘ a girl/boy loves me back’ in itself is a great pleasure and it’s the best you will ever have. So, don’t say it and be selfless

Do this for like 1 year and if you still think you can give that Love selflessly for your whole lifetime, then I salute you. You are THE best. There is no sarcasm here. It’s because you achieved the thing called  Unconditional Love

So, now let’s start addressing the selfish Love. I am not saying that it is bad or something. I just want to analyse the point of ‘Loving and getting that Love back’. I think this whole process is based on Selfishness. And as said by Valluvar ‘ Even bad is good if the situation wants it‘, selfishness is good here

It’s because Love makes you yearn for all those lovely feelings.

As I said before, all feelings in Love are on gaining basis and selfish

That feel when you propose – that feel when someone proposes to you

That feel when you hug her – that feel when she hugs you back

That comfort level when she rests on your shoulder – that comfort level when you have her resting on your shoulder

Looking at her eyes – looking at his eyes

So, none of these feelings are one sided. Both of them wants something out of it. They do it for their own pleasure and other’s pleasure too which I accept.

So Selfishness is needed in Love and that creates the ‘NEED’ for feelings and emotions and hence the Love perishes and grows stronger

On the other side, this same selfishness has a bad side. It becomes bad when one doesn’t understand the selfishness level of the other person and blocks the ‘SPACE’ she/he created for himself/herself

For example, some doesn’t want to speak on phone for long time. They get bored or they might except some personal space during that time. But the other not understanding that will result in problems.

But, finding that level is very tough and needs patience I think. You need to understand, not force things and create a trust that his/her space won’t get invaded by you. That’s a tough process. But mastering this process will strike the right balance of selfishness level

But beware of being too patient. There will be ‘taking for granted’ and ‘friend-zoning’ things. So choose the right ONE which again is a tedious and grueling process. But, that’s LIFE. Everything in life involves risk and fight. Do it because nothing matters more than LOVE in life. Right?